How Much Control Do You Have Over Your Thoughts?

5 takeaways from the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People” that will help you to get better control over your thoughts

You may want to convince your boss that you deserve to get a raise. You may want your child or significant other to eat healthier. Or, perhaps you’re in desperate need or persuading your partner to please not apply for that fifth credit card and that you must start to take your finances together more seriously.

We all have situations in our lives where we wish that we could influence other people.

But, one must tread lightly when trying to do this. Oftentimes, it just ends up in an argument where both sides leave the discussion more convinced of their initial standpoint than ever before. But some techniques can help you avoid this, where, resistance and tunnel vision is replaced with conformity and cooperation.

In this summary, we’ll go through some of these techniques, discussed in the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People”, written by Dale Carnegie.

Two fishermen were competing in a fishing contest One of them thought: “I like strawberries and cream. So, therefore, I will bait the hook with strawberries and cream” The other one thought: “I don’t really like maggots, however, I think fish like maggots a lot. So, therefore, I will bait the hook with maggots”.

Who do you think won the competition? It is necessary to bait the hook to suit the fish, and the same principle applies to people as well. The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

So takeaway number 1 is: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

If you, for instance, would like to convince your boss that you should get a raise, it is quite useless to state your reasons for wanting this, instead, show and tell why it would be in the best interest of your boss for you…

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